dem deux
I'm quite tickled by the fact that the previous post ("dem") is now the 4th most read article on this blog - in just 5 days time.
Is it because it's opinionated - specifically about girls I've dated...is it sexist? Is it worth a read (apparently)? Have a higher number of people read it in a short span of time because it rings true with a certain perception people might have of me? :) It amuses and intrigues me...
It's amazing how we live into people's perceptions of us. How we 'live into' their idea and belief of who we are...or do we..? Is it we who live into their perceptions of us....or are we just too scared to be who we are and so we hide in the convenience and comfort of who we're perceived to be?
Most of us relate to each other from the probable past and not the possible future. Even if your brother or friend or someone you know wants to be a rocket scientist - most of us would say, "Eh? Ya ya...keep dreaming"; rather than saying, "That's pretty cool, i'm sure you'll get there with the right work put in." What you might say to whom is invariably relative ...as relative as the theory itself. I mean George Bush did become the president - for the second term running.
What am i saying here....what does this have to do with a lot of people reading one article....am i justifying myself/my opinions? No. I stand by what i said - it came from what i've observed. It's my opinion - it's not necessary that people will like it...or should like it...then why post this?
Well...in some ways this relates to me being an entrepreneur. Not directly though. The difference between being related to as a 'possibility' versus a 'probability'.
I've met a lot of people who've wanted to 'slot' me. Try and find a space in their minds that i can fit into...a lot of the time i haven't. A lot of what i've done has happened by chance....here's the thing (and i only just realized it as i type all this out)...when you're working on your own - confusion, self-doubt, mistakes - are your best friends...a lot of the time. So in many ways, you don't know when something will change...when progress will happen....when you'll get the next big break...there's a lot of uncertainty. The only way you counter all this is by doing the simple things right.
Like, today, i went and met a client for whom we'd designed a new year calendar. Now, due to negligence on my part - entirely - the printing of the calendar has got delayed and it still hasn't been delivered. I have to deliver the calendar - and the only way i can do that, is by telling the client that there'll be a delay by another week. I wasted a few days thinking about this - till the client called me a million times while i was in another meeting - following which i called this client - went and met her and told her where things stood. She didn't like it; chances are we won't get to do another project with them any time soon - but she accepted things and asked me to make sure i delivered by the revised date i'd committed to.
My point in this little story is - do the simple things right and the big things take care of themselves. Just like the day i played the lead character in a play - i surprised and proved a lot of people wrong... the very same way, someday i'm going to prove a lot of people wrong and surprise quite a few others in reaching where i'll have reached in business - by doing the simple things right.
Right now - i also believe - that in being an entrepreneur, you also need to be a little narcissistic. Not arrogant; and certainly not throw your narcissism in others' faces and not selfish - but self confident, and sometimes this self-confidence will spill into narcissism - which is ok, cuz believe me - you'll need it.
I'm rambling again...
Bottom line - this started out as a reaction to so many reading the previous post, so - either being excessively opinionated or thinking excessively of your own opinion isn't a bad thing in today's dog-eat-dog world.
On a personal note, maybe it's made me more aware of what i should and should not share in the public domain. That's not to say i won't share my opinion frankly.
Is it because it's opinionated - specifically about girls I've dated...is it sexist? Is it worth a read (apparently)? Have a higher number of people read it in a short span of time because it rings true with a certain perception people might have of me? :) It amuses and intrigues me...
It's amazing how we live into people's perceptions of us. How we 'live into' their idea and belief of who we are...or do we..? Is it we who live into their perceptions of us....or are we just too scared to be who we are and so we hide in the convenience and comfort of who we're perceived to be?
Most of us relate to each other from the probable past and not the possible future. Even if your brother or friend or someone you know wants to be a rocket scientist - most of us would say, "Eh? Ya ya...keep dreaming"; rather than saying, "That's pretty cool, i'm sure you'll get there with the right work put in." What you might say to whom is invariably relative ...as relative as the theory itself. I mean George Bush did become the president - for the second term running.
What am i saying here....what does this have to do with a lot of people reading one article....am i justifying myself/my opinions? No. I stand by what i said - it came from what i've observed. It's my opinion - it's not necessary that people will like it...or should like it...then why post this?
Well...in some ways this relates to me being an entrepreneur. Not directly though. The difference between being related to as a 'possibility' versus a 'probability'.
I've met a lot of people who've wanted to 'slot' me. Try and find a space in their minds that i can fit into...a lot of the time i haven't. A lot of what i've done has happened by chance....here's the thing (and i only just realized it as i type all this out)...when you're working on your own - confusion, self-doubt, mistakes - are your best friends...a lot of the time. So in many ways, you don't know when something will change...when progress will happen....when you'll get the next big break...there's a lot of uncertainty. The only way you counter all this is by doing the simple things right.
Like, today, i went and met a client for whom we'd designed a new year calendar. Now, due to negligence on my part - entirely - the printing of the calendar has got delayed and it still hasn't been delivered. I have to deliver the calendar - and the only way i can do that, is by telling the client that there'll be a delay by another week. I wasted a few days thinking about this - till the client called me a million times while i was in another meeting - following which i called this client - went and met her and told her where things stood. She didn't like it; chances are we won't get to do another project with them any time soon - but she accepted things and asked me to make sure i delivered by the revised date i'd committed to.
My point in this little story is - do the simple things right and the big things take care of themselves. Just like the day i played the lead character in a play - i surprised and proved a lot of people wrong... the very same way, someday i'm going to prove a lot of people wrong and surprise quite a few others in reaching where i'll have reached in business - by doing the simple things right.
Right now - i also believe - that in being an entrepreneur, you also need to be a little narcissistic. Not arrogant; and certainly not throw your narcissism in others' faces and not selfish - but self confident, and sometimes this self-confidence will spill into narcissism - which is ok, cuz believe me - you'll need it.
I'm rambling again...
Bottom line - this started out as a reaction to so many reading the previous post, so - either being excessively opinionated or thinking excessively of your own opinion isn't a bad thing in today's dog-eat-dog world.
On a personal note, maybe it's made me more aware of what i should and should not share in the public domain. That's not to say i won't share my opinion frankly.
